dysfunctional housewives: Got Diapers?

Tuesday, February 20, 2007

Got Diapers?

by angelica

a while ago we had a comment here on the site from the daughter of an NDS, suggesting that the syndrome might skip a generation as she apparently has great domestic skills herself. that might well be, as far as I know some research pertaining to that issue is actually underway and as soon as we hear anything we will of course post it here.

what got me thinking though was the fact that there WAS a daughter of an NDS sufferer to begin with. how did she survive???

I personally never wanted children – and for good reason as it turns out because how would I have fed them? dressed them? how could I have brought up kids without starving, maiming, displacing or who knows what doing or not doing to them …?

an incident that happened many years ago comes to mind: I was living in an apartment complex in the big city and one of my neighbors and friends had baby twins. I guess they were cute, I never really figured out what made people fawn over little screaming sausage-like things. and it seems to me that for several month you do nothing but constantly put something in at one end only for it to come out smelly at the other end. until one day the little sausage starts crawling along the floor and you have to put everything in your place at a height of at least 3 feet. but I’m digressing.

there was an emergency one day and my neighbor had to leave, without the babies and any time for explanations. my doorbell rang, she stuffed the babies in my arms “gotta go, here is the bag with their stuff (???), see you later”.

I won’t go into details but the kids did survive. no thanks to my “skills” of course but I guess babies are resilient and can live with a lot of shit. literally and up to their ears! (how am i supposed to know about diapers?)

my advice: if you are an NDS sufferer and are thinking of having kids – make sure you have the income for a full time nanny. and cook. and housekeeper.

2 comments:

Anonymous said...: I think you all are just lazy. Everybody knows the Good Lord made women to take care of men, so we are born knowing how to cook and sew and clean. It comes naturally, just like it is natural for a man to fix a car and build things.

So stop making up excuses and use the good sense God gave you and take care of your men.; February 22, 2007 at 3:36 PM
Anonymous said...: oh, oh, someone needs therapy!
your comment just proves how religion really screws up people!

by the way: the only thing coming to men naturally is putting their 'thing' into whatever hole they can find.
and to say these poor NDS sufferers are lazy... that is so wrong! as i understand it they have academic degrees and probably really fulfilled and rich lives.
they just have a problem with domestic stuff. i bet if they were men no one would even think that anything is wrong!; February 22, 2007 at 5:52 PM

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what is NDS?

NDS Syndrome or No Domestic Skills Disorder is a multifunctional disorder discovered in the late 80ties by two young scientists who published a paper which described a pattern of behaviors in several women who had normal if not above average intelligence and language development, but who also exhibited marked deficiencies in domestic skills. In spite of the publication of this paper, it wasn't until recently that NDS is getting more widespread attention by professionals.

Individuals with NDS can exhibit a variety of characteristics and the disorder can range from mild to severe. Persons with NDS show marked deficiencies in domestic skills, have difficulties with all kind of housework and prefer others to do the same. They often have obsessive dislikes of anything domestic and may just avoid related activities such as cooking, sewing, cleaning, etc. They have a great deal of difficulty to use kitchen utensils or sewing equipment and very often the individual with NDS has difficulty understanding written material pertaining to domestic work issues.

It's important to remember that the person with NSD perceives herself to be perfectly normal and healthy.

By definition, those with NDS often have above normal IQ and many individuals (although not all), exhibit exceptional skill or talent in several specific areas other than the domestic realm. While intellect and education seem, on the surface, normal or above normal, individuals with NDS often have a deficit in patience and subordination to any kind of authority.

At this time there is a great deal of debate as to exactly where NDS fits. It is presently described as a behavioral disorder but some professionals feel that NDS might have underlying genetic causes, located on the X-chromosome.

Further research is underway but if the X-chromosome genetic cause theory can be substantiated, the unrealistically high amount of reported male NDS cases will have to be treated at what they probably are: avoidance syndrome.

For more detailed information or if you are looking for a support group in your area you can send an email to

ndssyndrome@yahoo.com